VIOLÊNCIA DOMÉSTICA! ( MACHISMO/COVARDIA)

Sou Cláudia, psicóloga. Exerço a função de psicoterapeuta num grupo de trabalho social. Cuido de mulheres. Vítimas frágeis, da intensa violência masculina, dentro de suas casas ou mesmo, fora delas.  Casos de agressões absurdas, físicas e emocionais, que chegam até mim,  revelam enorme falta de equilíbrio, amor e respeito exercido  por machistas covardes, que provavelmente, foram vítimas de pais, também machistas que ensinaram pelas suas atitudes doentias, esse modelo patológico de homem a seus filhos. Esses filhos também sofreram muito. De algum jeito, cada um deles teve a sua primeira natureza bloqueada.  Desenvolveram, infelizmente,  padrões de caráter alterados e doentios, pensando que assim seriam fortes e admiráveis. Muitos sentimentos reprimidos no coração.   Os valores primordiais do ser humano que correspondem à sensibilidade, empatia e generosidade ficaram recalcados em algum ponto de seu interior. Semana passada chegou até mim a jovem Beth, trinta e dois anos, mãe de um bebê com nove meses de idade. Casada com Luiz, homem socialmente gentil, muito simpático e brincalhão. Na intimidade, “um monstro”! Beth relatou que era submetida a torturas psicológicas e físicas, sempre que ousava não concordar Luiz. Durante a sessão, enquanto relatava seu sofrimento, ergueu a blusa e expôs marcas da mais recente violência na qual foi vítima. Motivo banal. Ousou atrasar o almoço do machão! Ele nem quis saber o motivo. Nem deixou Beth explicar que o bebê deles tinha ficado a manhã inteira com febre alta, choroso e inquieto. Só queria o colo da mãe. Na hora em que Luiz chegou, o neném, tinha acabado de ser medicado e adormecera. Beth nem teve tempo de colocá-lo no berço. Luiz, descontrolado, não vendo a mesa posta, começou a vociferar palavrões, de baixo calão, ofendendo-a de todas as formas. Mal Beth, indignada, tentou se explicar, ainda com o bebê no colo, recebeu um bofetão no rosto. Caiu no chão com a criança. Beth teve o cuidado instintivo de o proteger com os seus braços. O bebê acordou assustado, chorando muito. Nem essa cena abalou o desequilibrado marido. Luiz estava surtado. Não conseguia ouvir nada. Só sabia gritar. Como um monstro, pegou o filho do colo de Beth e  jogou-o no berço. Em seguida, despejou todo o ódio de uma vida em cima de Beth. Empurrou-a contra a parede, arrastando-a pelo cabelo, até o fogão. Dizia que ali era o lugar dela. Nem o ” Totó”, o cãozinho da família, foi poupado. Num gesto brutal, o “machão” deu-lhe um pontapé no traseiro. O pobre cachorrinho, assustado, correu dali, chorando muito. Depois deste filme de terror, o insano Luiz, saiu de casa, deixando dores, choros e gemidos, como se nada tivesse acontecido. Após os surtos, sempre contou com o silêncio e o medo de Beth.  Daquela vez foi diferente. Decidida a não passar nunca mais por essa situação criminosa, Beth conseguiu enfrentar  medos em se expressar, indo direto buscar ajuda na psicoterapia. Não seria mais  vítima de um doente. Foi assim que a conheci. Saindo da nossa consulta, Beth  prestou queixa na delegacia da mulher. Seu algoz não a submeteria mais, nem sequestraria a sua identidade. Não seria mais prisioneira de ninguém! Durante seu processo terapêutico,  emergiu uma nova mulher. Lutou pelos seus direitos de mulher e mãe.  Reconheceu que “estamos onde nos colocamos”! Está em busca constante em busca de auto integrar sua auto imagem com a auto estima. Entendeu que um machão troglodita, não sustenta seu desiquilíbrio em cima de uma mulher forte e integrada. Não sabe lidar com a força dessa mulher.    

 

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